I was in a group of lesbians, and one straight woman, last week just chatting about this and that. Someone said something about an ex-girlfriend and the conversation turned to exs. The straight girl (I just love that she was in the minority!) said how she couldn't understand how lesbians could maintain relationships with their exs; it was not something she could do. One of the other women piped in with the point that she was not like "most lesbians" in that neither she nor her partner kept up with exs and she just couldn't do it.
Is this just a stereotype, is it grounded in some basis of truth? Is Alice's chart on the L-Word representative? (For those of you that haven't watched the L-Word, it's a chart that links past and present relationships -- you can see a representation of it here).
Personally, I would be able to keep up with my exs (without weird emotional entanglement), if the opportunity were there. I still exchange occassional emails with two of my four exs (that's not so bad is it? I mean four exs in 51 years?); the other two will have nothing to do with me. OTOH, I am (surprisingly) incredibly jealous if my Girl mentions any fun thing she did or fond memory she has of an ex (and she feels the same way, so I never do mention those things).
What say you? Keep up with exs or leave them to the past?