It's been a long time since I posted one of these stupid quizzes (actually, it's been nearly a year since my last one). But, I saw this over at Kristine's place, Unblague, and after taking it she chided me about having dated men and asked me to blog about it. So, well, ok.
| You Have Your PhD in Men |
 You accept that guys are very different, and you read signals well. Work what you know about men, and your relationships will be blissful. |
Obviously, I know something about men (assuming that a single, stupid quiz with 8 questions can actually discern something like that). But, as I told Kristine, I know more about men from having actually lived in both camps then from having dated men. But, I have actually dated a few men.
This surprised her. I thought I had blogged about that before, but I'm both too lazy and too short on time to go looking for a post that talks about it so I'll post a couple of comments here.
No, I'm not really attracted to men and never have been. My basic attraction is to women. However, I have known a couple of men that I thought were really wonderful and know several now that I think are drop-dead gorgeous. And, during periods of self-exploration, I've even slept spent some time with a couple.
MTF transsexuals (and I'm pretty convinced it's equally (maybe more so) true for FTMs as well) are often objects of fetishistic desire in others (usually men). So, I've had my share of men hitting on me at gay bars where it was known that I was trans. I never did more than just dance and some light play with them.
I've also been to straight bars where I've met guys that didn't know I was trans and have had them hit on me. A couple I've actually seen more than once. I guess you could call that dating.
And, there were a couple of others that I met in more, um, unusual circumstances that I won't go into on my blog.
All of these instances happened while I was single, and if you're a careful reader of my blog, you'll remember that all of my single periods came after some traumatic breakup with a wife or a long-term lover. In hindsight, I can see where I was seeking some form of validation in these encounters. I was either looking for reassurance that I was desirable or feminine. I have to be honest here -- it was fun. I generally got that reassurance.
These experiences made me realize that I was probably closer to being bisexual than I was purely lesbian. I actually liked that about me. It gave me the ability to take the holier-than-thou stance of "I'm really attracted to the person inside and not to what is between a person's legs". Of course, it's equally obvious that I've never been in a long-term relationship with a man. I think that's because, in the final analysis, I really am more purely lesbian than I am bi-sexual.
So, there you have it, Kristine. Happy? :)
