Sanity check request here. I may be "over-the-top" in this whole "political correctness" thing and not realize it. I get that it is not my role in life to be the gender police or the PC police. Nevertheless, it seems I can't hold my tongue when people say things (even with completely harmless intentions!) that I take exception to.
For example, within the past 24 hours, two people that I know and respect (both men, as you might guess) said strikingly similar things (one in person, one on his blog). Both of them were commenting about doing activities in the cold and rain. One, talking about how we (the girls' IM law school team) were out practicing, despite the weather said that the men's team were a "bunch of Sallys". He meant it, of course, as a compliment to us. And, he's a great guy. But, I couldn't help point out the contradiction inherent in his "compliment". So, then he said, "OK, no one likes the French; they were a bunch of Frenchies." I piped up with, "I like the French." He looked at me in exasperation, laughed and said, "Denise, you're killing me here." So, I suggested possibly the gender-neutral 'wimps.' (Knowing as I do, that even that term can be interpreted as demeaning toward women -- though one has to think through it a bit longer to get there). Maybe we should just have left it as "the women could handle it, the men couldn't."
Then on Ryan's blog, I noticed how he, in talking about the Outlaws excurision today to Cedar Point, called the many people who cancelled due to the weather "pussies." My reaction to him is exactly the same. Why do we put down women when we want to make a reference to something that people can't handle? Does he even get that it was a sexist remark? I honestly don't think so. He's a great guy, I generally like him (his conservative politics notwithstanding). I don't think he had a clue when he wrote that, that it was sexist in any way. That's just an 'accepted' way to refer to people one deems to be weak.
I comment upon it because I don't find it acceptable. But, am I out of the norm here (as in, you know, generally everything else)? Do other people just accept these kinds of remarks in stride and understand that the speaker intended no harm? I really don't want to be the PC police, but where does one draw the line?